It is really important to me that everyone in my family have a voice. My goal is that everyone feels heard, loved, and validated. As the mother I feel it’s my responsibility to create this climate in my home. Mothers are very influential to the structure of their family.
I’m not running my home like a dictator. We all take turns picking out the restaurant. I buy one grocery item per week for each person. I take turns making everyone’s favorite meal. Sometimes we do things one person wants to do even if we don’t want to. Everyone gets to share their thoughts. No one gets to express them disrespectfully, but they can safely share their heart without consequence. 
I have observed in churches, various family settings, work place, and marriage what happens when one member doesn’t feel validated or heard. When members aren’t allowed to express opinions, share in the decision-making process, or be heard you create an unhealthy dynamic. When the atmosphere becomes unhealthy, the unit starts to break apart. It simply means you make everyone feel they are equally important. I find when people don’t feel apart of the group, like they belong, like they matter, they go looking for acceptance in the wrong place. Some of our children don’t feel apart of the family group. Some family members feel they are on the outside of the house looking in. We as mother’s have the power to change that. Your kids and your spouse need to feel accepted, heard, and validated in the home. Then they won’t wander out of the home. When one member feels invisible deep seeded things begin to grow in their heart.
I feel like what is happening in America can be fixed in the home. However, we have to put more effort into what’s happening in our homes. We have to intentionally build a healthy atmosphere where no one is invisible and every member matters. Let’s build better, stronger, healthier homes together!! We can save America if we save the home. Before revival can come to the world we need to turn our hearts back to the home and God.
