Have you ever experienced rumors, lies, or gossip? Well most of us have at some point in our lives. The ugly truth about lies, rumors, and gossip is that it always brings pain. Those conversations are wrapped in destruction. There is a part of the problem that often gets overlooked. Many times we get mad at the person who said the hurtful words. Yes, we are accountable for every word that comes out of our mouth. However, what about the mail man? Could the mail man be responsible for some of the destruction?
The mail man is the one who tells you the negative things others have said about you. If you are telling someone something positive, then absolutely share the encouragement. People never get enough compliments or encouragement. On the other hand, if you are telling someone else something negative you are responsible for that message. Our words should always speak life. As soon as someone knows the negative they have to deal with hurt feelings. Are you the destructive mail man? You don’t need to tell the pastor, the friend, your parent, the boss, the principal, the teacher, or the leader the negative. You are as responsible for the delivery of the message as much as the person who spoke the original words. You have a choice in life. You can be a part of the solution or problem. You also need to know the consequences of your words. God holds us accountable if we are creating chaos, division, strife, or stress. In the past I have had to give some negative mail men my 2-week notice. I have even had to figuratively change my address a few times to remove myself from the negative messaging. You might find yourself having to do the same.
I have learned in life that some people are addicted to drama. The person who says the hurtful words and the messenger are falling into the trap of dramatic chaos. Dramatic chaos causes division, destruction, hurt, broken relationships, and stress. You can live differently. Peace is a choice. You can choose not to participate in dramatic chaos. The older I get the more I realize I actually have a choice. You have heard the quote, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.” Well, I urge you not to join the circus. People who are addicted to drama do not realize the peace and happiness that comes from living differently. For them it is a drug that gives them a high. However, that drug will keep you in constant chaos. That drug will never let you experience peace, joy, and happiness. Be aware of the snoop who is always trying to get information. Those are the one’s always asking prying questions. If their name comes up a lot in drama that’s a red flag. Be proactive when the negative mail man is coming in your direction. Be cautious of the one addicted to drama. They are the one always over reacting and super emotional. Intentionally live your life in peace.
If you have been the mail man in this story, you have the power to change. Resist the urge to spread the negative. Only speak the positive. Think about the consequences and destruction that your words will create. Do you really want to deliver hurt feelings? If you truly care about someone you won’t tell them the negative messaging. You might be helping the devil do his job. The devil quite often uses the mail man to do his work. Don’t apply for that job. When the devil gives you a job application, decline his offer. You can play on God’s team and have a high ranking position with your creator who brings life, not death. Think about your words before you speak them. Monitor this behavior closely in your mind. The mind is the control center for all words, emotions, and attitudes. You can think differently. You can behave differently through the power of Jesus Christ which transforms us from the inside out. We all have the power to become better. You can change by speaking compliments, encouragement, and positive words. Like everything in life you have to practice doing this.
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